The Science of Awkwardness

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awkward………
Sources and extra links below!
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music by http://www.youtube.com/JakeChudnow

Embarrassment and prosociality: http://ist-socrates.berkeley.edu/~keltner/publications/FeinbergWillerKeltner2012.pdf

Empathetic Embarrassment:

http://www.npr.org/2014/07/19/332760081/the-opposite-of-schadenfreude-vicarious-embarrassment

Why Your Embarrassment Causes Me So Much Pain

Cringe subreddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/cringe

awkward hug gifs: http://giphy.com/search/awkward-hug

Embarrassment: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/11/embarrassment.aspx

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows: http://www.dictionaryofobscuresorrows.com

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows (on YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/user/obscuresorrows

“Why Are We Morbidly Curious?” (related Vsauce video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbdMMI6ty0o

social rejection and physical pain: http://www.pnas.org/content/108/15/6270.full

Social awkwardness and genetics:

http://news.sciencemag.org/social-sciences/2009/11/socially-awkward-check-your-genes
http://www.snpedia.com/index.php/Rs53576

Psychology experiments that test the breaking of social norms are called “breaching experiments”: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breaching_experiment

Stage Fright: http://business.uni.edu/buscomm/Presentations/stagefright.html

Oxytocin:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin
http://www.psyneuen-journal.com/article/S0306-4530(13)00211-4/abstract?cc=y

Oxytocin and fear/anxiety:

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2013-07/nu-tlh072213.php

negativity bias: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negativity_bias

more negative emotions than positive:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3156001/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-name-love/201007/are-negative-emotions-more-important-positive-emotions

Eleanor Roosevelt quote: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/26110-you-wouldn-t-worry-so-much-about-what-others-think-of

“in you 20s and 30s…” quote: http://www.ihhp.com/equotes/

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows: http://www.dictionaryofobscuresorrows.com

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows (on YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/user/obscuresorrows

“sonder” gif: http://i.imgur.com/zxBZ0vF.gif

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Date: June 17, 2024

24 thoughts on “The Science of Awkwardness

  1. He touched on this in his video about time but not properly. Whenever i feel insignificant it is worth thinking about time in terms of human computation not years. In terms of human computation every year now is worth 1000 years in the medieval age because there is 1000x as many people, 1000x times as much experience. And your life is just as significant now as it would have been when there was 1000x less people, only then your experience would have seemed more significant because there were less others. If you stretch your understanding of time in this way you realise that right now you are not insignificant. It’s just that more significance is present now than there ever has been in all of time, measured in human computation. We are not in the year 2024 we are in something like the 2000000th experienced human life and if you divide that by two you don’t go very far back in history (all numbers here are wrong obviously and I didn’t google anything, there just examples)

  2. I am the opposite of Sonder.

    I am the wet spot on the carpet you arent sure is water or pee.

    I am the mechanics behind those who drive stick shift with fist bumps.

    I am the fart in the elevator becoming its own entity.

    I am, awkward.

  3. I remember telling my mom about the 'main character' thing mentioned in the video just as same as he have mentioned way back when i was a kid

  4. 0:22 here in India when we forget eachother's name we would go like" tera naam ki a " which means what is your name like it is nothing and even worse when this happen to my friend who foegot my name I said a random student's name (I forgot ny own name)

  5. I never thought of sonder as negative before. In my mind, it was understanding what a rich tapestry of life we take part in… I never contemplated a negative aspect before, only perhaps that I fail to recognize it often, that I live separate from all those lives and unaffected by them shut away inside myself. But really all things need an ebb and flow. Biology often demands we see ourselves as protagonists to be able to make sound judgments and increase our own ability to flourish, but as creatures that are social we also need to recognize that others are doing the same, having their own human experience.

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